WHAT TO DO AFTER THE BREAK-UP

A relationship that you cherished may be over


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WHAT TO DO AFTER THE BREAK-UP


A relationship that you cherished may be over, but what if you're not over your ex and you believe the relationship can be repaired? Here's how you can convince your ex to give it another  chance

The first thing to do after your break up is to Review your relationship this how to go about it
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Understand the break-up. What did each of you do to contribute to the break-up? The odds are that it wasn't a one-sided problem. Realizing what you did wrong will help strengthen the relationship. And if nothing else, it will help you avoid similar mistakes in future relationships
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Find out if they are still interested. Before you start trying to win back your ex’s heart, you need to know for sure whether they still care or not. Knowing if your ex still cares about you is the first most important clue and hint that things can still be mended.
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Avoid contact for the first two weeks after the break-up. They will call you if they want to talk. If they don't, nothing you say or wear will change that. Sometimes, ignoring your ex makes them feel like you are perfectly fine without them and are moving on, which is the exact opposite of what they want.
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Focus on yourself. Hang out with your friends. Throw yourself into work and other extracurricular activities. You don't want to seem needy or like you are waiting for your ex to contact you again.
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Take a good look at yourself. When you first fell in love with your partner, what type of a person were you? When things fall apart, others will tell you that people change. However, you should take a moment and think "Have I changed? Am I a better, happier person now than I was then?" If you can honestly say you haven't changed for the better, perhaps you've defaulted to some bad habits or let your fears and worries get the best of you
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Do not stop them from seeing other people. If you start to complain and whine, you will instantly drive your ex away to that third party. Human nature is such that the more you stop them from having something, the more they want it. On the other hand, respect their choices and freedom. Do not let jealousy set in. Trust that if there was true happiness between you and if your ex wants to be happy, they'll eventually see that getting back together is the best choice. They just need time to get through the fog of whatever caused your breakup.
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Be the person he fell in love with: Try to think back to when the two of you first got together. What about you did he love? Was it your quirky jokes, or maybe your amazing sense of style. Once you settled into your relationship, did you switch from beautiful sundresses to that fresh-out-of-bed sweatpants look? Whatever it may be, try to rekindle the fire the same way the flame was started before.
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Don’t be seen flirting with other men: Some women believe that the best way to get their exes back is to flirt with other men while their ex is nearby. However, this is simply not the case! This is more likely to cause a bigger rift in your relationship than it is to fix it. Bottom line, if you want to get your ex back, don’t act like you’re trying find another man to take home.
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